Hi Tally, you are so lovely, I love reading the advice you give out! I have a question, that maybe you can answer? My life is perfectly fine, my parents are together, I get along with them, I do well in school, I play sports, I have friends, I get what I want when I ask for it, but why am I so unhappy? I am also very insecure, I am nowhere near as pretty as my friends, guys dont really like me. I always feel so alone, I feel like I cant trust anyone. I feel depressed a lot. Whats wrong with me?
Its obviously the insecurity thats getting in the way of your happiness. Sometimes our minds act like a prison, keeping in all our negative thoughts and not letting them out. To change the way you feel you need to start to embrace life fully, stop worrying about the smaller things, and focus on stuff you enjoy.
Everything in life is just an experience, things can change at anymore, stop judging what you look like, because someones ‘beauty’ can be taken away in a second, whats important, is that your heart is beautiful and your mind, your face can be beautiful but its not your face that is going to keep a relationship going, or a friendship, or a conversation, your face could change in seconds, one day the most beautiful girl in the world could wake up normal, but during the day she could have an accident, her face could change forever, it could be burnt, destroyed, anything, if that girl has a kind personality, if she goes through life treating others as she would like to be treated herself, the fact she has lost her outer beauty, wouldnt matter, because people would still be there for her, she would still be loved and cared for, however, if that beautiful girl had been going through life judging others, bullying, not giving out the love she wishes to receive, then her life would change even more dramatically, those boys who would only be interested in her for her looks would be gone.
So, if youre so worried about wheather a guy likes you or not, chances are, if he doesnt like you, hes not worth your bother, and tbh he is probably fairly immature, especially if his interest in girls only goes as far as a face or a body.
Im not really sure where Im going with this, or even if it makes any sense, im particularly tired today and finding it hard to focus, but ill continue anyway in the hope you find some sort of comfort?
Have you ever tried just riding the waves of life? :) thats what i do. I laugh at situations that make me feel uncomfortable, when shit happens, i realise life continues no matter how i feel, i know there is a sun behind every cloud, and the rain always stops at some point. You are young and these should be the best years of your life, just go with the flow, sit back and smile, dont let the bad shit get to you, just remember, its not going to affect you forever, so when you dwell on something, you are just prolonging your unhappiness even though little can sometimes be done.
As long as you are the person you want to be on the inside, as long as you treat others well and you make yourself proud with your achievements (doing well in school, sports etc) then you already know you are doing great at life, dont beat yourself up, praise all the good that you have done.
failure will shape you as a person, the hard times will just make you stronger, everything happens for a reason and it often makes us better people in the long run. write down your problems on a piece of paper, and spend some time writing down the solutions. Its tough to let go, but its rewarding xxxxx